Stitched Wings Outreach

Tag: love

  • Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

    In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to find ourselves caught in unhealthy relationship patterns that leave us feeling drained and unfulfilled. You may have noticed a recurring theme in your relationships: you text first, you call first, and you love with an intensity that often goes unreciprocated. It’s as if you’re caught in a cycle of always giving more than you receive, reaching out for love but only receiving crumbs in return.

    This is not the relationship God envisioned for you. The truth is, staying in these unhealthy dynamics fuels a deep sense of discontent and exhaustion. It can feel like a battle you just can’t win, leaving you overwhelmed and too tired to focus on your true purpose.

    Recognizing the devil’s tactics is critical. He delights in seeing you chase after fleeting affection, thriving on your desperation for connection and acceptance. When you settle for less than you deserve, you become trapped in a pattern that hinders your spiritual growth and overall well-being.

    But here’s the good news: God designed you for something much better! You were created as a daughter of the King, meant to thrive in relationships that uplift you and align with your values. It’s time to reclaim your worth and seek out relationships characterized by mutual respect, love, and spiritual growth.

    Start by setting healthy boundaries and being intentional about the types of relationships you pursue. Surround yourself with those who encourage you, challenge you, and help you grow closer to Jesus. Remember, it’s okay to step back from relationships that leave you feeling inadequate or depleted.

    Engage in self-reflection and prayer, asking God to show you the unhealthy patterns in your life and how you can break free from them. Surround yourself with supportive friends and community who can help uplift you on this journey.

    Ultimately, stepping into the life God has designed for you means embracing your worth, demanding respect, and pursuing relationships that reflect the love and grace you are called to embody. You are not meant to remain stuck in patterns that cause you pain. Instead, choose to walk in the light of God’s love, and watch how He transforms your relationships into powerful sources of joy and strength.

    You are worthy of love that is abundant and fulfilling—never settle for less!

  • A NARCISSIST DOESN’T FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU… THEY FALL IN LOVE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE.

    They fall in love with your potential, your energy, your loyalty, your soft heart, your ability to forgive, your achievements, your resources, your light — not because they genuinely value you, but because they believe they’re entitled to it all. They’re not drawn to your soul — they’re drawn to what they can take from it.

    From the very beginning, it’s a performance. They mirror you, study you, become everything you want — only so they can gain access. They will love bomb you, flatter you, praise you endlessly — until you let your guard down. But once they know they’ve secured a spot in your heart, their true self begins to show.

    The attention fades. The affection becomes conditional.

    The warmth you once felt turns cold and confusing.

    Suddenly, you’re walking on eggshells, questioning your worth, blaming yourself for the change you can’t explain.

    What you don’t realize at first is this: the love they gave wasn’t real — it was bait.

    They needed something from you: admiration, control, money, sex, validation, a status boost — and once they got it, they began devaluing you. They don’t fall in love with people — they become obsessed with what you can provide, and once that use fades, so does their interest.

    You were never seen as an equal partner. You were a supply source.

    A trophy. A reflection. A mirror they could shine in — until the cracks began to show.

    And when you finally begin to stand up for yourself — when you ask for accountability, honesty, respect — they will spin it, blame you, call you difficult, sensitive, crazy, or ungrateful. Because for them, your pain is never the problem — your voice is.

    A narcissist doesn’t want love — they want control.

    They don’t want partnership — they want ownership.

    They don’t want to grow with you — they want to drain you.

    And the saddest part? You likely gave them the purest version of yourself.

    But that version wasn’t something they cherished — it was something they consumed.

    So if you’re hurting right now, wondering what went wrong — please understand:

    You did nothing wrong.

    You loved too deeply someone who only knew how to take.

    You gave someone the best parts of you, and they mistook it for weakness.

    But your strength? It’s not in how much you endured.

    It’s in how you finally chose to walk away, reclaim your peace, and love yourself harder than they ever could.

    Their version of love was manipulation.

    Yours was real.

    And that is something they’ll never be capable of — and never forget.

    You didn’t lose them.

    They lost you.

    And that was their biggest mistake.

  • You Are Not Alone: Embracing Your Worth

    In moments of loneliness and despair, it’s easy to feel as though the world has turned its back on us. The whispers of doubt can be overwhelming, leading us to believe the biggest lie the enemy wants us to embrace: that no one cares, loves, or wants us around. But today, I want to remind you of a powerful truth: you are not alone.

    You Are Loved—No matter your circumstances, your struggles, or your thoughts, remember that love surrounds you. It’s easy to forget this in our darkest times, but the love of those around you, whether friends, family, or even strangers, is real and profound. Most importantly, you are cherished by a greater source. As a daughter of God, you are inherently valuable and deeply loved. This love isn’t conditional; it exists just as you are.

    You Are Cherished—Cherishment goes beyond mere affection—it is a recognition of your worth. You are unique, with experiences and qualities that only you can bring into this world. Embracing this fact can transform how you view yourself amid life’s challenges. You are worthy of kindness, joy, and all the beautiful things life has to offer. Remember, the world needs you and your unique voice.

    You Have Purpose—Every single one of us has a purpose that is waiting to be fulfilled. Sometimes, life’s difficulties can cloud our vision of what that purpose is, making us doubt our significance. However, you have been placed in this world for a reason. Your passion, gifts, and insights are all part of a grand design intended to inspire and uplift those around you. As you navigate through life, keep seeking that purpose, and trust that you are meant to make a difference.

    Finding Connection—In those moments when loneliness creeps in, reach out. Connect with friends, join communities where you feel safe, or engage in activities that bring you joy. It’s easy to isolate ourselves when we feel down, but genuine connections can help lift those heavy burdens. Remember, vulnerability is strength; sharing your feelings can invite support from others who care about you.

    The next time you feel overwhelmed by feelings of unworthiness or isolation, remind yourself of this truth: you are not alone. Embrace the love that surrounds you, cherish your unique place in the world, and keep searching for your purpose. You are loved, you are cherished, and you have a significant role to play in this beautiful tapestry of life. Remember, the sky may seem gray today, but the sun will shine again. Keep holding on; you are meant for greatness.