Stitched Wings Outreach

Tag: relationships

  • Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

    In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to find ourselves caught in unhealthy relationship patterns that leave us feeling drained and unfulfilled. You may have noticed a recurring theme in your relationships: you text first, you call first, and you love with an intensity that often goes unreciprocated. It’s as if you’re caught in a cycle of always giving more than you receive, reaching out for love but only receiving crumbs in return.

    This is not the relationship God envisioned for you. The truth is, staying in these unhealthy dynamics fuels a deep sense of discontent and exhaustion. It can feel like a battle you just can’t win, leaving you overwhelmed and too tired to focus on your true purpose.

    Recognizing the devil’s tactics is critical. He delights in seeing you chase after fleeting affection, thriving on your desperation for connection and acceptance. When you settle for less than you deserve, you become trapped in a pattern that hinders your spiritual growth and overall well-being.

    But here’s the good news: God designed you for something much better! You were created as a daughter of the King, meant to thrive in relationships that uplift you and align with your values. It’s time to reclaim your worth and seek out relationships characterized by mutual respect, love, and spiritual growth.

    Start by setting healthy boundaries and being intentional about the types of relationships you pursue. Surround yourself with those who encourage you, challenge you, and help you grow closer to Jesus. Remember, it’s okay to step back from relationships that leave you feeling inadequate or depleted.

    Engage in self-reflection and prayer, asking God to show you the unhealthy patterns in your life and how you can break free from them. Surround yourself with supportive friends and community who can help uplift you on this journey.

    Ultimately, stepping into the life God has designed for you means embracing your worth, demanding respect, and pursuing relationships that reflect the love and grace you are called to embody. You are not meant to remain stuck in patterns that cause you pain. Instead, choose to walk in the light of God’s love, and watch how He transforms your relationships into powerful sources of joy and strength.

    You are worthy of love that is abundant and fulfilling—never settle for less!

  • A NARCISSIST DOESN’T FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU… THEY FALL IN LOVE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE.

    They fall in love with your potential, your energy, your loyalty, your soft heart, your ability to forgive, your achievements, your resources, your light — not because they genuinely value you, but because they believe they’re entitled to it all. They’re not drawn to your soul — they’re drawn to what they can take from it.

    From the very beginning, it’s a performance. They mirror you, study you, become everything you want — only so they can gain access. They will love bomb you, flatter you, praise you endlessly — until you let your guard down. But once they know they’ve secured a spot in your heart, their true self begins to show.

    The attention fades. The affection becomes conditional.

    The warmth you once felt turns cold and confusing.

    Suddenly, you’re walking on eggshells, questioning your worth, blaming yourself for the change you can’t explain.

    What you don’t realize at first is this: the love they gave wasn’t real — it was bait.

    They needed something from you: admiration, control, money, sex, validation, a status boost — and once they got it, they began devaluing you. They don’t fall in love with people — they become obsessed with what you can provide, and once that use fades, so does their interest.

    You were never seen as an equal partner. You were a supply source.

    A trophy. A reflection. A mirror they could shine in — until the cracks began to show.

    And when you finally begin to stand up for yourself — when you ask for accountability, honesty, respect — they will spin it, blame you, call you difficult, sensitive, crazy, or ungrateful. Because for them, your pain is never the problem — your voice is.

    A narcissist doesn’t want love — they want control.

    They don’t want partnership — they want ownership.

    They don’t want to grow with you — they want to drain you.

    And the saddest part? You likely gave them the purest version of yourself.

    But that version wasn’t something they cherished — it was something they consumed.

    So if you’re hurting right now, wondering what went wrong — please understand:

    You did nothing wrong.

    You loved too deeply someone who only knew how to take.

    You gave someone the best parts of you, and they mistook it for weakness.

    But your strength? It’s not in how much you endured.

    It’s in how you finally chose to walk away, reclaim your peace, and love yourself harder than they ever could.

    Their version of love was manipulation.

    Yours was real.

    And that is something they’ll never be capable of — and never forget.

    You didn’t lose them.

    They lost you.

    And that was their biggest mistake.

  • Embracing Boundaries: Protecting Your Peace

    Life is often a journey of love and support for the people we care about. We want to see them thrive, make the right choices, and embrace positivity. However, the reality is that sometimes, despite our best intentions, those we love may choose a different path—one that leads to bitterness, deceit, or self-destruction. Watching them spiral can be heart-wrenching, especially when we feel powerless to help.

    You can love them. You can pray for them. You can walk on eggshells, showing them grace and understanding. But if someone is determined to remain hardened, no amount of effort on your part can change them. This is one of the most challenging aspects of caring for someone who refuses to seek improvement or healing.

    The hardest part is often the watching—the slow-motion realization that they are hurting themselves, and in turn, hurting those around them, including you. It’s a painful experience to witness someone you care for making detrimental choices over and over again, and it can leave you feeling anxious, drained, and frustrated.

    But it’s essential to remember: it is not your job to fix them. You are not the Holy Spirit. Only God has the power to soften hearts and lead individuals toward change. Your role is not to force transformation but to love unconditionally and set healthy boundaries.

    So, what can you do in this challenging situation? Here are some steps to consider:

    1. Set Boundaries: Establishing clear boundaries is crucial. Decide what behaviors you will accept and what you will not. This is not about shutting them out but rather protecting yourself from their choices. Boundaries show that while you care, you won’t compromise your well-being.

    2. Release the Weight: Let go of the responsibility to fix someone else’s life. It’s easy to take on the burden of their decisions, but it’s essential to recognize that you cannot control their actions. Letting go of this weight can free you to focus on your own well-being.

    3. Keep Praying, But Stop Striving: Continual prayer for someone you care about can be essential, but stop striving for change through your own efforts. Trust that God is in control and working in their life, even when you can’t see it.

    4. Protect Your Peace: Prioritize your mental and emotional health. Engage in activities that bring you joy and serenity. Surround yourself with positive influences that uplift and encourage you.

    In the end, while you may feel helpless at times, remember that change is ultimately in God’s hands. He can work in ways you may never understand, and He will do so in His perfect timing. Until then, focus on nurturing yourself and cultivating an environment of peace.

    Life can be challenging when those we love seem lost, but by setting boundaries and leaning on faith, we can find clarity and strength in our own journey. Protect your peace, trust God’s timing, and let go of what you cannot control.